Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Let’s start with a definition so we are all on the same page.

Compare:

: to say that (something) is similar to something else

: to look at (two or more things) closely in order to see what is similar or different about them or in order to decide which one is better

: to be as good or as bad as something else : to be on the same level or in the same category as something else

   So for our purpose we will be using compare in terms of its second definition. Seeing if two or more things are similar or different to decide which is better. And what exactly am I saying not to compare; our lives, our things, our children, our marriages, our looks, everything that involves ourselves versus someone else.  Comparing your life to others does nothing positive for you. It will more than likely have a negative effect on how you feel about some part of your life.

Why Comparing is Bad

It’s not an accurate picture.  What you are comparing to is not some ones complete life.  Most people only post the good things, and make the mundane things sound special so that it looks like they are doing great. When is the last time you posted a picture of your dirty house, that’s right you haven’t, so don’t compare a few pictures of a perfectly clean room to the current state of yours. Don’t assume it is always that way they probably just cleaned it, and the family hasn’t had a chance to dirty it. If someone never post a bad day status or tweet, do not take it as if they don’t have them. They just don’t share every detail, or they don’t want people to know about those days.  “Steve Furtick explains, "The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else's highlight reel."”

It doesn't help you accomplish your plans. Fretting over how someone else is skinner, has better hair, has better clothes, more money, more friends or has a better job, does absolutely nothing for you, it just wastes your time. If you are trying to accomplish some goals the last thing you need to be doing is wasting your time thinking about someone else. If you are looking at someone for motivation to reach a goal that is great, but don’t compare their middle or end to your beginning.

You’ll never win. If you are basing your worth on what others are doing then you’ll never be satisfied. There will always be someone who has something that is more then what you have.

   Your life is the only one you will get why would you want to waste it being like someone else. Spend your time focusing on being the best you that you can be. You just end up making yourself feel worse about your situations. Take that energy and use it to better yourself or to just figure out how to be happy.