Married Monday: Character Traits of a Good Wife Part 2 Compassionate and Generous

  

   Welcome to Part two of character traits of a good wife. Today I am talking about being compassionate and generous.  Compassion is feeling or showing sympathy and concern for others. If you are generous you are ready to give more of something then is necessary or expected.

Compassionate

When I asked about different traits that were important to being a good wife, compassion was one that I got a few times. Why is it so important in a marriage, why would husbands say this first? Because compassion is so similar to caring. As a wife we have to show concern for our spouse. They need to know that you care about them and what is going on in their lives.  Compassion creates a safe area in your relationship. Your spouse will know that when they share something with you that you genuinely feel for them and are sympathetic. Feeling understood is very important to your marriage.

Here are some ways you can show compassion

• Let your expectations go and just accept your situations.
• Bad days are going to happen, be there for your husband when he has one.
• Know what they need in the moment, just because it makes you feel better doesn’t mean it will for them.
• Sometimes all it takes is a good hug.
• Don’t say you know how the feel, ask them how they are really feeling.

Generous

The first thing that pops into my head when I think about being generous is money, but there is so much more than that. Being a wife we need to be generous to our husbands. Generosity is more than giving; it is giving gladly more than expected. It can also be seen as wanting to encourage your spouse, to bring out the best in them, not just tolerating them. Be generous with your thoughts. This may sound strange but your thoughts and vocalization of them about your husband’s strengths and weaknesses falls under generosity. Letting his weaknesses pass and telling him his strengths will only help bring out his better qualities. This generosity will create an environment where there is no reason to be afraid of weakness. Also being generous with your time is very important. There are things that make you who you are as a person, such as your hobbies, time you spend on volunteering but you have to be careful to not become too busy. Your husband needs your time don’t forget to  keep time aside to catch up with him.